Some people who suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder become very adept at avoidance or safety behaviors. It’s can be a natural reaction to something that feels bad, and of course, they will do whatever it takes to avoid those situations.
Some people who suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder
After all who likes bad feelings. But unwittingly they are reinforcing their anxiety and even making it worse. Have a look at the common avoidance behaviors, and see if in trying to minimize exposure, you’re feeding the beast.
Many experts say that avoidance is one of the biggest obstacles people with social anxiety face. Many hide as much as possible.
True avoidance means doing anything not to have to face the feared social situation. That can range from just not turning up to parties and refusing invitations, to changing jobs so as not to have to give presentations or even dropping out of college.
Partial avoidance is a less obvious safety behavior because the sufferer still seems to be participating while still keeping themselves safe.
If they only knew what safe was like. These behaviors include:
• Sitting in the back of the room
• Keeping your eyes lowered and looking like you’re absorbed in taking notes
• Protective body language like crossing arms, or avoiding eye contact
• Drinking or taking drugs.
Not surprisingly, people use escape as a safety valve for anxiety. Many do this without others seeing it. As in partial avoidance, the sufferer seems to be participating but gets to a point where the stress is unbearable, and they have to leave.
This sort of behavior includes leaving a party or other gathering early, pretending to get an urgent message so they can leave a meeting, or hiding in the bathroom.
What can you do?
While such avoidant behaviors help in the short term, they act to reinforce your vulnerability. They keep you in a hypervigilant state, constantly on the lookout for danger or fearful situations.
Avoidant behaviors keep you stuck right in the middle of social anxiety. They stop you from trying and failing, but they also prevent you from working and succeeding.
You won’t learn how to overcome your fears or learn that you’re pretty good at giving presentations. If you never speak up in meetings, all your good ideas stay in your head.
If you hide your light under a bushel, you never get the chance to shine.
An easy gateway technique to start overcoming your social anxiety is to try the five-minute strategy. When you feel the urge to avoid or run away or shrink down, give yourself five minutes.
You can put up with pretty much anything for five minutes, right? Just give it a try, be kind to yourself and encourage your real self to take it easy