Deep and Honest
Feeling good about yourself can be a daunting task for those who have low self-esteem and seem not to believe in themselves.
Some may be so negative in their perspectives that they cannot even believe in their own strengths, let alone their positive attributes.
Here are 4 things you can do to begin building up a positive attitude about yourself.
1. Discover more about your strengths. By discovering your strengths you will develop a greater appreciation for yourself.
There are several ways to do this. You can research articles on your strengths, and listen to audio relating to your strengths.
View pictures relating to your strengths, speak to people who relate to your strengths or engage in other activities which help to enhance your understanding of your strengths.
2. Create an action plan. Take time to write down all your strengths.
Begin writing them on the board in front of you or on a sheet of paper in front of you.
Next, listen to some tips on your strengths.
3. Change your surroundings. Bring some sunlight into your room.
Stand in the sun for 15 minutes each day for a week straight.
Go downstairs and engage in physical activity.
4. Change your thinking. Change the way you think about your strengths.
Change the words you associate with your strengths.
Stop thinking of your strengths as something to be ashamed of.
Stop thinking of your strengths as something you should feel guilty about.
The 4 things above are easy to do but they are not the only things you can do to get a positive attitude about yourself.
What you really need is positive answers to these 3 questions:
1. Why do I have strengths?
2. What do I like about my strengths?
3. What can I do to enjoy my strengths even more?
You can even ask yourself, “What can I learn from my strengths?”
The way you ask the questions creates the mindset within you to get a positive attitude about yourself.
These 3 questions really get you into a positive state of mind and they are so easy to answer that you’ll soon be asking yourself, “What strengths am I good at?”
I’ll bet you can’t answer these questions quickly. That’s because it takes effort to answer them. It takes effort to become a better YOU.
It takes effort to get positive answers to the questions.
That’s because it takes dedication and you can only do that by working toward developing positive strengths.
But don’t worry. There is help.
There are specific books and teachers and teachers of specific subjects who can help you.
The same goes for the people who can help you get positive answers to the 3 questions.
The same goes for the “how-to” books and other resources you can use to become a better you. It’s not easy.
But it’s doable. You just have to believe in yourself and the possibilities that are offered to you.
You must believe that there is help. There is help for everything on this planet.
It’s up to you to take action and get what you want.
When you decide to make a change it’s not done easily.
It takes effort. It takes hard work and work that only the strong can do.
Most people don’t know how to do this. They can’t be responsible for themselves. They only see themselves as a victim.
They only see the world as a place where they can be victimized.
And they don’t realize that they are powerful enough to stop this type of thinking and to become the powerful person they are really supposed to be.
They are powerful enough to keep themselves from doing what they know they should do.
But they are not strong enough to change their minds when they decide they want to do what they know they shouldn’t do.
‘Weakness is complicity.’ – Lao Tzu
If you want the life you were born to have then you must choose to be the responsible person that you were born to be.
If you don’t choose to be this person then you will be this person. The only way you will be this person is if you choose to be this person.
‘It is not our place to choose for them.’ – Gandhi
“When a person chooses to be responsible for his or her own actions, he or she discovers the vast resource of human energy which lies dormant in others.
When this energy is given access to play, it becomes a valuable ally in the performance of a variety of complex tasks:
It illuminates the path of duty, it creates the firmness for determined efforts, it stimulates the willpower to victory.
It is this human energy which transforms the seemingly empty potential of others into the fulfilled life of the solo.
It is by living life responsively that we give value to what others give to us. It is by living life independently that we find an enriching connection with ourselves.” – Eckhart Tolle, “The Power of Now”, pp. 104-105
How Do You Learn to Be Independent?
I think that’s a question every human being wants to know the answer to.
How do you learn to be independent?
It’s different for different people. It’s not so bad if you have a strong sense of self. It’s really bad if you don’t.
Being independent is about knowing yourself.
The more you try to force your feelings, thoughts and actions to match your beliefs, the more you deny yourself the opportunity to have a deep and honest inner connection with yourself.
And when you deny yourself this opportunity, you are basically saying that you don’t matter.
That you’re not worth anything. When this happens, it feels really bad. It’s bad in a way that can last your lifetime.
And for a lot of people, it can set you on a path to deep depression, anxiety, exhaustion and a host of other emotional issues.
It can set you on a path to even suicide. That’s why this is so important to learn to be independent of everyone and everything.
Self Awareness is the key to learning how to be independent
I see many people with a strong sense of self and yet they don’t seem to be able to experience a strong sense of independence or inner peace.
They feel constricted. It’s because they are denying themselves this important chance to heal.
And it’s something you can’t heal when you deny yourself the opportunity. You can only heal when you are honest with yourself and honest with what matters to you.
When you let go of what doesn’t matter anymore and embrace what does matter, you let go of constriction.
You let go of feeling constricted. You can freely choose your feelings, thoughts and actions.
You can give yourself the opportunity to have a deep and honest inner connection with yourself.
You deserve to have a deep and honest inner connection
You are worthy of having a deep and honest connection with yourself.
So don’t ever doubt yourself or your worth.
Do your work to learn how to be independent of everyone and everything.
When you allow yourself to have a deep and honest connection with yourself, you let go of feeling constricted.
And that’s the key to being a deep and honest inner connection with yourself.
By learning how to be independent of everyone and everything, you let go of feeling constricted.
We’ll explore what we mean by deep and honest here.
It’s when you are so honest with yourself that you truly become a deep and honest inner connection with yourself.